SARAH Chapman revealed that she wept after being mum-shamed about her parenting four times per day.
Margot, the model who was expecting her second child together with Jim, gave birth in September 2021.
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On the Made By Mammas podcast she spoke about her mommy journey and admitted that she was moved by comments made from her parents.
She stated, “I just find is really strange that people feel compelled to voice their opinion in such strong ways.”
“I don’t mean to be negative, but I have had messages before from valuable people, and they are able to say it positively.
But then, you’ll get the reverse.
“My 17-month-old daughter was able to walk and it took her only 17 months. My husband and I were overwhelmed by the number of messages that I received from people saying: “Your daughter must be…have you checked if your daughter is autistic?”
“I don’t want it to be perceived as negative by children with SEN. That’s not my intention, but why are you messaging?
Jim said, “I’d sob and tell Jim that I needed to see her for a test. Is there more we can do? Do I help her too much?
My husband replied, “What’s the matter?” She’s fine! She can talk, she’s just not able to walk.
My mum is there saying: “I’ve known children who didn’t walk till they were 20 months old.”
“I felt so helpless. Then, people started messaging me. At one point, I got three or four messages per day.
“It is really, really bizarre.”
Margot “tentatively”, now walks, but Sarah says that Sarah’s mum-shaming made Margot her personal rule.
She said, “My rule that is always true – and it’s what I advise anyone about having a child – you have to do your best.”
Sarah explained to the listeners that Jim’s decision not to give Margot a nursery home was likely to provoke backlash.
“My daughter attends nursery two days per week,” she said.
“It’s my first admission, loud and clear, online that my daughter is going to nursery.
“Because of my feelings that I don’t wish to tell anyone. They’ll be so mean on me on the Internet because she’s two.”
Sarah added that Margot went to nursery as she loved other children and that Sarah was happy that she enjoyed her time there.
But I also felt ashamed to confess that, because many people think, “Oh, you have taken your child to the nursery.” She said, “You shouldn’t do this. You should still be Mothering them.”
“I found the comments on parenting and how to choose to parent truly amazing.”
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