Being a caregiver for someone who is a heavy drinker can be difficult. You can help improve your health by encouraging them and their support.
According to the NHS, addiction can be defined as “a state of mind that is not controlled by any other means.” “not having control over doing, taking or using something to the point where it could be harmful to you”.
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It is possible to become addicted to gambling, drugs and alcohol. “just about anything”. These are signs of addiction:
- Feeling the need to drink or use drugs is a common feeling.
- Drinking or using drugs can lead to trouble.
- Others will notice that you drink or use drugs and may warn you.
- Problems are caused by your drinking and drug use.
Andrew Misell Alcohol Change UK has these tips on how to talk to them . . .
READY, SET…
“PLAN what you’re going to say first,” says Andrew. Talking in blind could cause you to be frustrated and upset, making it harder to have a meaningful conversation with your friend again.
Take your time, and if you find it helpful to focus and be clear, note down.
NO BLAME
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Although you may be nervous, be sincere and not make it a confrontation. “Try not to criticise or blame,”Andrew
“Talk with empathy about their drinking and the effect it has on you.”
RIGHT TIME
Do not try to engage in conversation with someone who is drunk, or feeling hungover.
Choose a time when they are not sober. They will be more open to listening to you. Accept that the conversation may get heated and move on to the next time.
GP MOT
Remember the NHS is there for you and your loved-one. “Encourage them to book in for a check-up with their GP,” says Andrew.
Their doctor can assess the person’s drinking and talk to them about recommended limits and treatment options.
SPREAD CARE
It’s okay to look after them. “Encourage them to drink plenty of water so they do not become dehydrated and to eat regularly, especially before they start to drink,” says Andrew.
“Make sure they are not putting themselves and others at risk by drink-driving.”
FEELS HOPE
Do not despair and try to take small victories as they come. “Remain positive about their ability to change, and offer praise for any small alterations they are able to make,” says Andrew.
Positive feedback is always appreciated and it will make people feel valued.
SELF-CARE
“ IF you are affected by someone else’s drinking, it’s important to know you are not alone and there is support available,” says Andrew.
“There are also organisations that offer help and advice specifically for family members.”For more information, visit alcoholchange.org.uk