My Fiance Told Me to Pay for His and His Friends’ Meals After I Got a Raise: Here’s What Happened
A woman’s fiancé constantly gaslighted her about her financial capacity. It came to a point where he demanded she pay for their meals whenever they went out with his friends.
Keeping Finances Separate: The Root Cause of Conflict
On Reddit, the woman narrated the sticky situation she was in. She wanted to see whether or not people thought she was wrong for what she did. The woman explained that she kept her finances separate throughout her relationship with her fiancé. They never shared a joint account because her fiancé didn’t want one.
Salary Raise: The Trigger for Unease
Around the fifth month of their engagement, the woman got a raise. She and her husband deduced that she earned 30% more than he did. Since getting a raise, the woman noticed her fiancé would constantly request her to pay for him and his friends. “Why should I pay for this?” she’d ask him. “The 30%, that’s why,” he’d reply.
Straw that Broke the Camel’s Back: The Final Showdown
Because of how her fiancé treated her, the woman felt he was implying she didn’t deserve the raise. It was like he was taking the salary raise against her and that it was unfair. Her fiancé enjoyed eating out with his friends. Several times, they’d ask the woman to join them, and he’d trick her into paying for the entire meal by asking her publicly.
The Bold Move: Sneaking Out of the Restaurant
Admittedly, the woman was always too nice to say no. She hated confrontation, so she’d suck it up, smile, and pay for the bill. One day, she finally had enough. Her fiancé asked again if she could join him and his friends for dinner. She obliged, but from the moment they left for the restaurant, she had already clarified to him that she wouldn’t be footing the bill. He assured her that wasn’t the case and said it was on him.
The Confrontation: A Resounding “No”
Everything was going well during their dinner until he whispered in her ear that she’d be paying for everything in the middle of the meal. She was furious and whispered back a resounding “no.” Like clockwork, the man knew his fiancée hated causing a scene in public. So, he publicly announced, “You have enough money you could pay for everyone’s food, 30% remember?”
The Fallout: A Relationship in Shambles
The woman was livid. She waited until the tabs were on the table to make her move. The restaurant already split the bills from the start between the woman and the rest of the party. She paid for her order and excused herself to the restroom. Then, she made the bold move of sneaking out of the restaurant and driving herself home. Soon after, she got phone calls from her fiancé demanding to know where she was.
Backlash and Redemption: Internet’s Vindication
Ultimately, the woman felt she did nothing wrong. However, because of how her fiancé reacted, she felt the need to seek help online. People on the internet made sure to give the woman an awakening. They thought she was putting herself in a bad situation based on the man she chose to marry. People on Reddit made it clear that the woman was being manipulated by her fiancé. They hoped she was wise enough to dump him and save herself from further torment.
Share Your Thoughts: What Would You Do?
Do you think the woman was right for sneaking out of the restaurant? What would you do if you were in her place? In another story, a man refused to pay for his stepdaughter’s meal after she embarrassed a waiter in front of everyone. Click here to find out what happened.