Is Plastic Surgery Ruining Relationships? The Shocking Truth Revealed
They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and since this has been an adage that dates back to the 3rd Century BC, that means it predates a lot of widely held opinions and generally describes that individual human beings can find what they find attractive, and don’t what they don’t.
The Influence of Beauty Trends on Modern Society
Now this is entirely my own beholding, but I believe that a lot of people who undergo specific plastic surgery procedures end up looking like monsters. The Kardashians all look like deranged Bratz Dolls made from some kind of independent video game studio trying to make the next Five Nights at Freddy’s games.
The Pressure to Conform to Social Media Standards
There are many TikTokers who have the same exact face, and, because they’re getting brand deals selling yoga pants or flash $900 pairs of sunglasses and purses that they’re wearing as they do story times about some blown-out-of-proportion friend drama they more than likely made up to get views while they apply makeup to their face, people try and emulate their looks thinking that this is what attraction is.
The History of Beauty Ideals
But beauty trends come and go throughout time. There was a period in Japanese society where having the whitest looking skin possible was considered the paragon of beauty, so women began blackening their teeth in addition to powdering their faces. Imagine offering to buy a dusty, blinding white waif a cup of sake only for her to grin at you with a grill that looks like Francis Buxton after he got pranked by Pee Wee.
The Devastating Impact on Relationships
Reddit user @OKinevitable7692 uploaded a pair of viral posts where he detailed how he stopped initiating sex with his wife after she got work done on her face: “We had discussed it and I was against it. It was not my decision and ultimately I had no say. She looks weird now. She had the fat sucked out of her face, lip fillers, a neck lift, other stuff I don’t really get.”
Confronting the Consequences
He says that he tried avoiding the subject after her face had healed and that he would come up with numerous excuses. His wife even asked if he was having an affair and wanted to look through his phone to see if he was chatting with anyone and he gave it up without any fear because he wasn’t doing anything wrong.
The Importance of Honesty in Relationships
After looking through his device for about an hour he told her that he just wasn’t interested in having sex anymore until she persisted and he said, without any ill-intent or in an attempt to be brutally honest or mean, he expressed to her he wasn’t physically attracted to him anymore due to the cosmetic surgery she received.
The Role of Family Dynamics in Relationship Issues
Ironically, she revealed that her mother and sister, who maligned him for the confession, strongly advocated for her to get work done on her face as a means of keeping OP interested in her physically. The Redditor revealed in a follow-up post that his wife’s mom and sister look like Bruce Campbell in Escape From L.A. — and even if you don’t know that movie or the specific character, you’ll know the type of aesthetic he’s rocking in the flick.
Finding Healing and Solutions
It’s a look that renders someone’s face more akin to something out of the live action Beauty & The Beast TV series, and it seems that the philosophy behind this type of cosmetic surgery is to stretch one’s skin so much and fill it up with so much…whatever it is that’s being put in it, that it makes one’s countenance look like they just went 12 rounds with Golovkin.
Seeking Resolution and Moving Forward
“We talked for about three hours and we decided that her mom and sister would not be a part of any decisions in our life going forward. She is going to leave her face alone and give me a chance to get used to it. We are going to look for a marriage counselor and maybe individual counselors for each of us. I am going to make an effort to show her every day how I still find her desirable and she is going to make an effort to believe me when I tell her I love her the way she is,” he wrote towards the end of the article.
Discussion and Reflection
What do you think? Should someone love their significant other regardless of whether or not they got any work done to their faces? If you really love a person should nothing get between the two of you? Or does OP have a point?