{"id":158830,"date":"2023-05-01T01:41:16","date_gmt":"2023-04-30T20:11:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/centralrecorder.com\/i-grieved-for-rios-first-wife-even-though-i-never-met-her-says-kate-ferdinand\/"},"modified":"2023-05-01T01:43:25","modified_gmt":"2023-04-30T20:13:25","slug":"kate-ferdinand-i-mourned-rios-wife-even-though-i-had-never-met-her","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/centralrecorder.com\/kate-ferdinand-i-mourned-rios-wife-even-though-i-had-never-met-her\/","title":{"rendered":"Kate Ferdinand: I mourned Rio’s wife, even though I had never met her."},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Rio and I were both 26 years old when we met on a beach holiday.<\/p>\n

My best days were ahead of me. I was single, young and free. <\/p>\n

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Kate Ferdinand and husband Rio Ferdinand are expecting their second child together<\/span>Dan Kennedy: Commissioned by Fabulous<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n
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How To Build A Family, by Kate Ferdinand, (Vermilion, \u00a316.99), out on May 11<\/span>Credit: WH Smith<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Rio, on the other hand, was 38, with\u00a0three kids\u00a0and widowed \u2013 the perfect match. Lol!<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t exactly what I wanted to go home and tell my mum about, and it certainly wasn\u2019t what I\u2019d imagined when I\u2019d envisaged my future family.<\/p>\n

But you can\u2019t control how you feel.<\/p>\n

At first, I thought it was pretty easy to love Rio.<\/p>\n

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I thought, \u201cIf they\u2019re his children and he loves them, well, then I\u2019ll love them too. <\/p>\n

“And I\u2019ll make it work, because we\u2019re one\u201d. Sorted.<\/p>\n

It would be so simple if only.<\/p>\n

Looking back I realize that I was very naive. <\/p>\n

It took me a long time to build a blended family.<\/p>\n

At first I found it difficult to be a stepmum, partly because there was no one with whom I could share my experience and I felt no one would understand what I went through.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I\u2019ve written my new book, How To Build A Family, about the challenges blended families can face and how to overcome them.<\/p>\n

In this extract, I\u2019d like to share some of the issues that came up for our family \u2013 Rio, 44, Lorenz, 16, Tate, 14, \u00a0Tia, 11, and our two year-old son, Cree.<\/p>\n

Although sometimes our life may look perfect, I can assure you it\u2019s not.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m so grateful now for my big blended family with another \u2013\u00a0baby girl\u00a0on\u00a0the way this year\u00a0\u2013 but it\u2019s been one hell of a journey to get here.<\/p>\n