Mothers who are new mothers admit that they were not ready to have children.

A THIRD of mums admit they weren’t prepared for the challenges of childbirth – and haven’t felt the same since.

A study of 2,000 mothers showed that 78% of them were asymptomatic. ‘shocked’The impact that giving birth had on their bodies.

Mum's have said they weren't ready for childbirth and it has left a mark on them


Many mothers have stated that they were not ready for childbirth, and this has had a negative impact on their lives.
The study forms part of the brand’s ‘Real Birth Announcements’ campaign which aims to help prepare mums-to-be


The study forms part of the brand’s ‘Real Birth Announcements’This campaign aims at helping mums-to be prepareCredit: David James Wood/PinPep

Three quarters of the pregnant women experienced abdominal pain within the first six weeks. The back pain was only 39%.

Others had to deal with hormonal shifts (34%), constipation (28%), or sore breasts (43%).

And many continued to endure problems throughout the fourth trimester – the 12-week period after giving birth – including struggling to walk (24 per cent) and incontinence (18 per cent).

Commissioned by baby product makers Frida, the research also found six in 10 wish they’d been warned beforehand about what they would go through.

The study forms part of the brand’s ‘Real Birth Announcements’Campaign that encourages parents to share their postpartum and birth experiences to prepare moms-to-be.

Paloma Faith, a mum-of-2, supports the campaign by sharing details of her challenges during childbirth.

The singer and activist said: “My own birth and postpartum journey was far from the rosy scenes you see on screen and online.

“After my emergency C-section I couldn’t walk properly for two months, and the exhaustion was ridiculous.

“Add on a new-born baby piranha setting my nipples on fire and a sore body and you’ve got a memory you will never forget.

“Not enough women are prepared for the realities of childbirth and postpartum and that’s why I’m proud to partner with Frida to help encourage open conversations about real birth stories.

“It’s time to challenge the social media perfection posts – let’s start sharing what really goes down.”

The study identified the most common ways women felt unprepared for the realities of childbirth – including feeling scared (35 per cent) and not realising how common complications are (28 per cent).

While more than a quarter (26 per cent) didn’t realise giving birth could last as long as it did.

Younger mums – 18-24 year olds – are more open to sharing these bits of information along with graphic details of childbirth than 35-44 year olds – 43 per cent compared to 35 per cent.


Similarly, this age group would also feel more comfortable speaking about their childbirth experiences than those in their mid-30s and 40s – 28 per cent compared to 20 per cent.

23% of those polled said they would be more comfortable speaking openly about childbirth with other mothers.

While 33 per cent believe what mums go through during the post-partum period – the first six weeks after childbirth – is not discussed enough, with more focus placed on the birth itself.

And nearly half of mums (45 per cent) were often asked more about their baby’s wellbeing than their own.

Chelsea Hirschhorn, Frida CEO and mum of three, said: “Frida is here to prepare parents for the unfiltered, unsexy moments of parenting – the ones you don’t typically see on Instagram.

And that starts with mum: we want to demystify the realities of becoming a mother and encourage more upfront conversations about what really goes down in the delivery room – and beyond.

“We aren’t afraid to push the envelope and talk about the very real moments and challenges of parenting. 

“Ultimately, we want first-time mums to feel as prepared as a third-time mum and that ambition is at the heart of Real Birth Announcements.”

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